Kami-no-aisuru

Most people who know me know that I’m a pretty avid treasure-hunter. I like a good hunt, even the kind with tiny hard-to-find boxes, because finding things is part of the thrill. However more and more lately, the hunts are getting to be a complete drag and I’m going to take the opportunity to vent about it.

1. That fucking ridiculous Peace on Earth hunt. Makes the ghost hunt from Halloween look small by comparison, it’s sheer massiveness daunting to pretty much everyone. Absolutely FILLED with crap gifts (sorry I know this is bad etiquette but it’s true) that are from way back in the past, or from the “reject” pile of the creators ideas or something. mostly awful with a few shining stars which is why people quickly made cheat sheets and USED THEM. Myself included. Placing your shop in something like this in an effort to drive up traffic becomes a moot point even if what you’re offering is great, because most people are going to look at the cheat sheet and only go to stores they know and already like. there are better ways of getting traffic.

2. The hunt I tried to do tonight on the Cutie Land sim. I like several stores on there and got notecards from two of my groups promoting their items in the hunt, so I go in all gangbusters. I navigated there on the map and 128/128/0 landed me smack in the middle of their volcano tree, trapped in a crevasse with megaprims all around, nothing to grab hold of to sit on, etc. SET A LANDING POINT IT’S NOT HARD TO DO. Then after locating several of the prize boxes and being totally unable to do anything with them I see that one of my notecards pointed out that this is one of those fucking stupid, horrible and kind of cruel hunts that only has 1 box/1buy and if you buy it you need to take it. Needless to say, every box is bought, none are taken, all are laying around merely mocking those of us stupid enough to click on them.  IF YOU THINK THIS KIND OF HUNT IS GOOD FOR BUSINESS YOU ARE WRONG. These things are picked over by professional hunters who all are using Lya’s or other object finders and all these false prizes are doing is pissing off your base clientele (you know, the kind who would go to your outlet shop just to spend a couple hours looking for something rare of yours, YOUR FANS). It is a very quick way to get people to turn around and leave, which is exactly what I did.

3. Maybe most disappointing to me personally, a hunt going on from one of my favorite shops, featuring a set of hunt-only items. But because this hunt is happening on a specific sim I will not go, because I will never set foot on that sim. I guess that doesn’t affect anyone but me, but it feels like being a loyal person but one who has some ethics isn’t worth it sometimes.

I don’t know, the way they’re going lately, maybe I should just stop going to hunts.

A comment from Laleeta on the last entry told me I might be able to give some pointers & tips to people who are lost on ideas/resources for outfits to wear to the Asian Style hump day dance. I know everyone likes dressing up in theme, though, so I hope I can point you toward some good resources. Unfortunately, my style tends to go mainly Japanese (and theres sooo many Japanese sims & creators) but I also know theres a healthy selection of Korean designers, for instance, but I’m just not familar with them.

Asian theme covers quite a bit actually, some general ideas I had were: Geisha, samurai, kung-fu master or any kind of karate/kendo/judo uniform, ninja and kunoichi (girl ninja), Buddhist monk, Godzilla, Anime characters (Power Rangers or Pokemon), Japanese schoolgirls/boys, Yakuza gangsters, race drivers (a la Tokyo Drift or Speed Racer), Chinese cheongsam, Korean hanbok, Thai, or Vietnamese. India is in Asia too, so many of the Zaara dresses would work.

You might begin at Bare Rose, I really think this might be the best option for the men especially. Myriad outfits under every type of category. Quality designs and prices so reasonable you won’t believe it. Samurais, Ninjas, and martial arts type outfits, all kinds of kimonos, theres even some Indian gods.  The selection is so mind-boggling that you might have difficulty choosing.

(thats just the mens section!) BareRose knows this can be chaotic and they have a nifty online database to help you (they also have staff available on the floor for assistance). Browse the different outfits, then get a slurl that takes you right to it. Another great thing about BareRose is that they tend to do outfits in pairs. So if you find something you like in the Mens section, chance is theres a girl version too.Main sim is divided into Men’s on the East, Women’s on the West with new items in the center. Toward the East side of the center area is a big freebie section that might help you some too. http://slurl.com/secondlife/Bare%20Rose/174/49/30

Edo Japan is a good sim to find traditional old-school Japanese clothes, like kimonos by Juno Kobo:
http://slurl.com/secondlife/EDO%20JAPAN/48/178/27 featuring, Kimonos, some inexpensive fans. Across the way from Juno’s is shop Onenine http://slurl.com/secondlife/EDO%20JAPAN/92/199/27 with some good freebies, especially if you’re going for the gangster look. a pair of jeans and a pompadour, with leather jacket (free!) from Onenine and some silver chains and you’re set.

Falln Angel Creations has probably more colors of kimono than anyone on the grid, theres dozens and dozens, and on their Asian floor, they have not just kimonos but parasols, kanzashi (hair ornaments), fans & small sections with Chinese style dresses (some more gothy than Chinese), and Vietnamese dresses. Unfortunately, no freebie section. http://slurl.com/secondlife/FallnAngel%20Creations/163/130/68

Milky has kimonos (and campers)
http://slurl.com/secondlife/Akh/221/119/23

Cherry Tokyo:
http://slurl.com/secondlife/Isla%20Violeta/97/96/45
Kimono, Chinese, Korean, Vietnamese, even Indian!

Tokuno Wind:
http://slurl.com/secondlife/aduchi%20momoyama/114/16/22
lots of various samurai/ninja male & female

Jugoya:
http://slurl.com/secondlife/Nagasaki%20BAKUMATSU/223/235/27
Male kimonos, some samruai/ninja stuff, geta

Aoharu
http://slurl.com/secondlife/AOHARU/93/39/23
kimonos, some very high end, 1 hairdo, 1 freebie kimono

It might be worth your time to do a search on the freebie blogs and see if there have been any good freebies that you might use. Some of the designers leave them up forever, like that Aoharu kimono has been a freebie the entire time I’ve been in SL.

I hope this might at least give you a springboard to jump off in your search for something cool to wear. happy shopping!

so much happenings. I’ve thought about a million times that “I need to go post some of this stuff” but haven’t. I’ve been really busy in SL, it seems I’m always doing 18 things at once. Rebuilding my house has been a big priority, I think this is “the one” finally, after several fresh builds. I found a place that I took as my inspiration because it was so incredible and fit my aesthetic, it’s going to be in a sort of “industrial pagoda” style, with a little bit of cyber on the side. picture Blade Runner does residential… hopefully The build is turning out nice, and looks better than some of the schlocky crap I turned out for my house in the past couple months.

I’ve been trying to build a business. I got ahold of a little 512 on the mainland and decided the best use for it would be as a mainstore. I’ve made a separate blog for all businessy things & new releases and whatnot.

So pictures and such will be over there. YES I have several plans for new content and thats on the stove too, working with everything else. I did get the opportunity to make something for a hunt and that was fun but I just don’t think I’m all that great at clothing.

I had the opportunity to participate in the great bunny hunt at Silent Sparrow and managed (finally and after some foolhardy purchases) to find a Fog bunny. Inside was the Devana dress in the limited edition Fog color and according to the initial notecard, theres only 25 of these on the grid.

Getting to wear such a thing is a real honor, and of course it’s a beautiful dress.

I also went and got the new ER F-Type girl robot avatar. Theres been a lot of buzz about this over at SLU because the creator has been posting his progress. It’s a really stunning avatar that’s pretty unusual. And it’s mod, so it’s fully customizable (and encouraged!). I didn’t do a whole lot to mine but I did add a skirt on to it from an outfit I already had from Bare Rose. I made the color scheme to match the rocket jetpack (really nice!) sort of a blue purple like burning rocket fuel.

and OF COURSE I was busy with the CSR hunt, I took most of a day to do it! I’ll try to get pictures of my prizes and post them.

I’ve been neglecting my flickr too, will try to update that. I did get a couple pictures of the fog and also Katat0nik’s Malice dress (also limited) which I was so happy to get a chance to buy. Another lovely piece for my wardrobe which is being taken over by Kata. I have a plan to do a Alice in Wonderland tableau featuring her Alice dress. That will be on flickr.

Started playing Tiny Empires. It seems ok so far. It’s fans are… rabid to say the least. Is it wrong to only want to play something because eventually it will deem you to be a princess?

Also I’ve been thinking a bit about relationships. It’s really nice that so many people I know are finding someone to be with in SL, but it does make me wonder about myself. I guess it’s a true statement about my personality that I can’t seem to do the “hooking up” thing in any world, real or virtual. I didn’t really expect SL to be different because personalities are the same really but sometimes I get a bit lonely, and get reminded of it when seemingly everyone is getting hitched. I’m not expressing this right at all I dont’ think. I’m so happy for people, I really am. But it does remind me every time that romantic relationships are just something I can’t ever seem to acquire. The other night while I was wearing the Fog gown I decided it would be nice to go dancing and hit up some places on the advice of the Ch’know people. I couldn’t even find a dance partner. It just gets a little depressing sometimes.

been awhile since I posted I think. well I’m still working in the middle of nowhere. I had the weekend and went back home to see my kitty. aw so cute. and now it’s Monday night and I’m back for work. it’s all quite silly, if I can’t find a house to rent in a month or so I’ll probably quit. Between room + board I’m basically breaking even, not so good and not worth this grief. This place is all kinda weird. I found out something, you americans might remember the place from a few years back, it was one of the loony towns who put a granite “10 Commandments” on government property right in front of the courthouse. it still stands, btw. (with adultery misspelled, even!)

The weekend was awesome getting to see my cat and my stuff and my folks. playing SL on a good computer, not this cranky laptop. *shakes fist at Vista* *reaches out to strangle Norton*

One exciting thing was that the sim next to where my house is got griefed. I saw it and was like whoa…

I’ve never seen an honest to God griefing before. My builder neighbor over there says it’s someone on the sim who likes to use alts to grief his neighbors. how lame. but you know what was awesome? Teagen Linden was there in like 30 seconds to fix it. I’m not even sure the estate knew about it. She was like…. “denied!”

I’ve talked before about my fangirling over the work of artist Glyph Graves, and I’m about to again. XD  He has another exhibition and sent me an invite *eeeee*. Even the invite is art.

I did attend the opening and I’ll do a formal write up of it another day. It’s some of his most stunning work to date I think.  If you’re interested in seeing a mini-gallery just visit my house XD  I keep having to shift prims around to make room for art.

I also attended the mega hayooge Silent Sparrow/Schadenfreude/Draconic Kiss/Calico Creations fashion show and it was a MADHOUSE in thar.

I seriously crashed like 4 or 5 times. upwards of 90 avatars throughout. BUT it was a great show! It had a dollhouse/broken dolly theme and lord knows I love that. I also happen to love all of the designers so I was pretty happy to attend. I’ll take pictures in some of the fashions later and post them to flickr probably. graphics not as good on the laptop but I’ll try.

and the other fun thing I did was try out OSgrid. Joshua from the SLU forums has some land and invited people to use it sandbox like, so I did. I’m not entirely sure what the purpose of the open source is…. I guess the idea is you house your own sims on your own servers? at home? but I know that a sim has 45000 prims!!!! So I wanted to build something with just tons of prims that I can’t build on the regular grid. So I built him a greenhouse with a dock attached.

was a very amusing couple hours.

the other fun thing I did was go to the shoe expo. oh I spent too much money  TT_TT

Shiny Things, Kata0nik (Stomp Lightly), First Flower, Maitreya, Unique Needs, Kata0nik again, Curious Kitties

… and I’m spent.

before I jet off into the uncertain territory. panic mode beginning to set in. not a creature of change or surprise, like knowing what is going on and when.

today’s been weird for a ton of reasons, I basically stayed up all night last night & then made breakfast & went to sleep. just continued the odd vein all the way through, full of coinkydinks and such.

recently I’ve been to a couple of these EGL-type dances at the Aquastar Lounge, it’s been pretty fun, wish the people were a little more chatty, I think i’m spoiled to the Ch’know group which is hyper chatty

I brought Kamino around to the Pit but no one was around boo hoo.

Nah, he was there because I needed to test that my SHOP WAS WORKING!!!!

Yep I opened a booth there to see if theres any kind of a market for my silly things, been adding to it for the past couple of days, need to do more. problem is the list of things I need to do is soooo loooong. and i’ll never get it all done. so here it is! go look at it please! most of the items are for sale even if theres no board for them yet, every item is mod and some are mod/copy

The dance last night was great as always, maybe a bit less attendance than the last couple. I like the venue there it’s like a huge Chinese temple or something, and the music is awesome, getting to hear j-pop and j-rock songs & dance with people who have similar interests.

I can do that at home, but not with other people. No one comes to visit me. maybe if i’d finish a house & get some furniture? I went visiting today for a tea party & that was kind of awkward, light on the conversation & the host kept crashing. contrast that with fishing at the Viper Pit tonight where the text was flying both in open chat & the Ch’know group IM window. I like the chatterbox atmosphere better, but I feel like more of a weirdo.

ANYWAY, since the dances are sponsored by Bare@Rose there is almost always a new dress given out (YES GIVEN) and it’s a debut, given out there before it starts being sold in the store. they have a contest you see, whoever wins the contest at the dance appears on the poster for the dress at the store. alas, I’ve never won. but someday it shall be mine! but if you like cute dresses from Bare@Rose you might just want to start coming to the monthly dance.

see, it’s not so lolita-style. I think it looks a bit easter-y. And it’s 3 colors so 3 dresses, pink, white & blue. hat too.

I have another cute deal to tell you about, it’s a little panda bear you can get for L$1. go to

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Peronaut/69/140/40

and look for the giant panda chewing on the scenery.

click on him & get a mini panda for yourself for just L$1.

a new friend to give piggy back rides too. if you are looking for super cute flats you might also want to check out theirs, they have a cute rose on the front, and are copyable and mod meaning you can have any color you want, as many pairs as you want L$25.

They also have a couple of camp-pandas with really short times, half hour, twenty minutes. When I was there it was for a pink kimono & a hairdo.

so… I have wall squirrels. maybe not “squirrels” per se, but some little rodenty, scratchy thing…inside my wall. and it wakes me up, it must be dealt with. yes, I live in the heart of BFE, and I like the country thing- most of the time, but it’s this kind of backwoods BS I can do without. and it drives the cat nuts.

could be a raccoon.

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SL Bloggers - Where do you go to shop when you just need some retail therapy? Do you suffer from buyers remorse later? What is the most expensive thing in your inventory?

I do a lot of shopping in SL. I guess I’d have to say that I like a shopping sim with a little something extra. like Silent or Harajukubox Town. Lately I’ve been to Juicy quite a few times, that sim is coming along nicely, and I seem to end up in Osaka (maybe because I use the ATM there). The most expensive thing are two, tied at $750 each. One is a gown by Chambre du Chocolat (the huge one) and the other is a gown that’s also a car. it’s got a personalized plate!

RL Bloggers - Besides your car or house, what’s the most expensive luxury item that you have? Did you buy it just to have it, or do you actually use it?

Probably this computer here, as I had it custom built for me. You’d think it would work better. Maybe a diamond ring that was my grandmother’s but I’m not sure that counts as I didn’t buy it but inheirited it. (TMI aside note, I don’t believe in buying diamonds or supporting the diamond trade and would never buy one for myself or have one bought for me–remember that any doods who feel like proposing). Use the computer every day, wear the ring when I’m feeling fancy.

NOT QUITE TUESDAY TWOFER!!! OMGWTFBBQLOLCATS!!
SL Bloggers - How hard do you think it is to find a relationship in SL? Where are people meeting each other?

Don’t really know since I haven’t had one and I’m not really looking to. I’m not not looking to, you never know what might happen, but at present I’m happy just building stuff, buying stuff, messing about on my land & having fun. the thought of jumping on a poseball of that nature just makes me lol and lol.

RL Bloggers - Would you start a relationship with someone you met online?

Done and done. It was kind of a thrill for awhile, but ultimately didn’t work out in my favor. I probably would give it another shot though, I know people that it’s worked out for. BUT I’m not entirely sure I’m a romantic relationship person-in person or online, I can’t ever seem to get it right and usually it blows up in my face & everyone gets hurt/sad/angry whatever. I just think some people are made more for aloneness.

question of the (yester)day:

SL Bloggers - If there was one thing on the grid that you could snap your fingers and it would be gone forever, what would it be and why? It has to be something other than lag.

I think it would be soundwhores. I don’t know if that is their proper name but people who feel the need to Hoo!! incessantly, and who carefully construct their own sound-laden gestures that they must use constantly, even when the situation barely fits their sounds. It’s annoying to my ears, astupid of them to think anyone cares about their Hooing, and arrogant of them to assault our sense of sound. I frequently find myself turning the sound down entirely or simply muting that person. (BTW I have no problem with infrequent use of sounds, its just every GD minute is too much) but if you’re partying down and play it once a night, get on with yourself.

RL Bloggers - If you could snap your fingers and get rid of one thing in your life, not body related, what would it be and why? And I say not body related just because I think we tend to be hard on ourselves sometimes, and we need a body rest.

Money issues, I’d make myself wealthy enough to not have to worry, to be able to have some fun, do some traveling, have some nice things, treat my family & friends to same.

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end Q&A portion.

There is a fashion expo going on as part of the Relay for Life events, and a raffle involved, so I bought a couple tickets, I was kind of surprised to be notified that I won something!

Blinging. Purple. Silks.

Good cause and all but what part of ^ that ^ is fashion? XD I had to put on my drag queen wig & take a picture. they’re so huge on me I needed a bikini just to maintain some kinda modesty.

BTW I finally have a photo booth created in my big OH Hai UFO and so should have some nice blogger-quality photos soon, I’d like to start doing a “what’s she wearing” kind of fashion breakdown, since I love clothes, have a fuckton of them, and think I’m a pretty snappy dresser. (modest too)

I went to this store that totally went the extra mile. they had a glass floor with another store underneath, only the underneath store was UPSIDE DOWN so the glass floor looked reflective. Its hard to describe but when I first walked in I couldn’t believe it! I had to check to see how they did it.

sure enough, same store replicated one floor below, only upside down. they even made sure the ceiling/floor matched. it’s detail like that that keeps me interested. they really took the time.

and lastly, I went to the Viper Pit again tonight, this is the 3rd or 4th impromptu dance party I’ve gone to there, and they’re always such fun. This one started (for me) with playing around with the campers (something I like anyway) and ended up just dancing around in the courtyard. Those people are so awesome & fun & funny and always make a person feel welcome We had enough girls to take a picture on a poseball set.

Of course, since everyone will probably post it I had to go and photoshop it up with my l33t ’shopping skillz. Everyone looks so badass-except for me, I look like a silly bouncy girl. XD

from left: Kharisma, me, Sehra, QueenKellee, Alicia & CeN. they will fuck. you. up. and i’ll blow bubbles at you or something. LMAO

so Alicia issued this challenge to get slackers like myself to update their “blogs” more GAWD how I hate that word and I’m not so fond of the proto culture that has sprung up around it. I’d much rather consider myself a journal-ist or a diarist. BLOGGER. horrible word as subtle as a bull in a china shop. at least call me a BLAHger or something. truth is that I’ve been puttering aroundt these internets since they became open for puttering, I kind of got most of it out of my system already. My personality is not so outgoing and bubbly and if I write about the nonsense that happens to me on a daily basis I think it just looks weird and feels pointless. So yes I overthink stuff that I’m going to write and thats why I post pictures because they’re easy and because I’m cute. ANYWAY what she had to say was probably meant for a lot of people who shout be putting themselves out there more but it hit me right at home, yo.

I do a LOT of keeping my mouth closed and my ears & eyes open in more public situations. Both in RL and SL if its a crowd at a club, a small group of friends, a forum full of relative strangers. So I probably come off a little cold & distant, sorry about that. I’m not unfriendly, and I’m not creepy.

SO I’m currently standing bare ass naked in my glorious skybox of changingness and thought I’d fire off some thoughts with minimal imagery. YES I stole the Oh Hai idea from QueenKellee and I already fessed up.

I’ve been spending a lot of time inworld, I’m spending way too much money, even if its practically imaginary. I’ve gotten kind of hooked on the more designer experience, Shiny Things, Paper Couture, so far I’ve mostly avoided Armidi because what they want for a shirt is recockulous. But I have some hair from there and its fab. I’m building stuff but I never seem to be particularly happy with the results.

Some stuff happened in the Free Style group earlier that upset me because a couple weeks back there was a free pair of boots in this location, along the back wall of said location was a pair of shoes for $10L and I informed everyone and their mama about it. I guess that price was a mistake… and now people are asked to be careful and inform the owner/creator and ask if that’s right? WTF because people (like say <3 Cupcakes just recently) decide to have a “secret” sale where the bargains are just mixed in with the regular priced stuff. I thought thats what it was & I’m NOT SORRY for informing people about it.

oh well. so the question of the day “Why did you decide to start blogging about your Second Life?” I added this “blog” GAH when I bought the Kami-no-Aisuru domain and thought i’d use it periodically. it just so happens that right after that is when I started in SL and that kind of took my world over… to be honest I don’t do much IRL and even less now that I’m unemployed. I’ve always been kind of a homebody anyway. If you know the term hikikkomori you know what I’m talking about. I would probably be a shut in if I didn’t have to do things. I’m not socially inclined, and with all of the Asperger’s talk going around these days I’ve been wondering if I don’t have a mild case. I have the ABILITY to be social just not the INCLINATION.

As for the story of the site name (and by extension my SL name) I’ve been meaning to write about that. I’ve been studying Japanese for about a year (could be going better but I have only my own laziness to blame) and its a rough translation of my RL name. don’t really care who knows it so Josephine = God’s beloved in Hebrew (fem.) and Kami=God, Aisuru=beloved. I thought it would be fun & different and had a hard time coming up with a personal domain name. so thats why in SL i’m both Aisuru (usually) and Kamino (alt). the more you know *ting*

bleh title. i’m lame, what else can i say? i’m having trouble getting any kind of motivated for job hunting. i’m not entirely certain i even want to be in that profession anymore. but i also don’t have any clue what kind of profession i want to be in. i have some contacts and i’ll see what comes of it. i’m stuck between a dying industry and being far behind the curve (and having no desire to catch up) on the emerging industry.

however, i’ve been in SL a lot (further cementing my coolness factor forever). i went to the NPIRL Garden of Delights to look around and get inspired, and it was quite awe-inducing. i’ve heard something about a backlash regarding how it was all handled and laid out, etc. and all i can say is there are parts of it that blew me totally away, parts that were just more of a “oh, thats neat” kind of feeling, and parts that were “that was… kind of pointless and maybe ugly”. some of that has a LOT to do with how straight-up prims recreate organic forms, like people, animals. i.e., they don’t very well. some of the exhibits (galleries? installations?) are STUNNING and no one can deny it. such as Eshi Otawara’s Phoenix gown. One i liked i don’t even remember the name of so i’ve just been calling it the sparkle ball.

Of course my vanity thought it would be the perfect backdrop for some photos. the best photosphere ever. but it really is amazingly gorgeous… go see it!

i almost always attend Primtionary on Asim Zahra and tonight was the first time i attempted to build an “Evil” clue, it went ok. i think i may be an “Evil” girl from thenceforward.

i heard that the new “Nirvana” sim with a Christmas/Winter/Holiday theme was finally open and so i went there & got into the holiday spirit. to be honest, it’s lovely but i was a bit disappointed. i was hoping for more “cute” stuff than i saw and i’ve always thought that their creations like all-prim flowers (Lord they torture the hell out of some prims!) were kind of overpriced for what you get. considering the cost and the prim hit, i’d much rather have plants from Heart’s Garden Center. (or Botanical-particle grass Hello!)

But even with all that, nothing could stop me from getting dressed up for some photos!

This one let me show off this really cool snow crown i found randomly in one of the Japanese sims. egads i love the randomness & jumbledyness of Japanese sims.

so tomorrow night is the rave that Alicia has been going on and on about and i made a skirt to wear to it, and i’m going to look like a freak, lol. a couple of weeks ago SineWave gave out this dance to peoples and since then i’ve gotten ADDICTED. i think i’ve bought like 4 more dances from them, and they have the smoothest dances i’ve seen in SL. i really love hopping into the middle of that laggiest of lagfests and trying out some more dances that aren’t too hoochified. i found a totally awesome fan dance for when i’m in kimono, and this crazy cirque-du-soleil thing all twirling in the air. sweet. i’m gonna dance like a weirdo at the rave!

the other thing i’m excited about is Sin Skins is having another $199L sale, and i got a couple more of my favorite skins, the Sakura in Bisque from her Ton Visage line. i have lots of skins, but those are the ones that are truly “me” and i was able to afford a couple more makeup options!

and i’ve been fishing a lot, kind of missing being able to fish at home but i’ve met some cool people just fishing and at contests. i’ve pulled a few of the SuperUltraRares now so i don’t feel like such a noob. pictured with my Golden Seahorse, yes i coordinated my outfit to him